So, your little girl wants to dress like a boy?

I am blessed with 4 lovely children. I say blessed as those who know me are aware that 2 of our children came after surgical alteration. I know you are saying how can this be, but put yourself in my shoes when I was literally saying "How the FUCK did this happen? Anyway, water under the parent for life bridge. I have 3 girls, 2 of which have gone through a phase of wanting "boy" style haircuts. I say "boy" style because who really decides that shit, but whatever. My 7 year old decided she wanted a Doctor Who style haircut because lets face it Doctor Who is all kinds of AWESOME. Thankfully I try to surround myself with only the best people, and one of my friends was willing to give my kiddos a haircut in return for some canned yum yums and some fresh bread.

The Conversation

I explained to my lovely little girl that there are people out there who think their opinions are important and that would try to make her feel bad for wanting to look this way. These people would make fun of her and tell her that she looked like a boy or had a boy haircut. I told her that some people don't like change and some people just try to be mean, her response should be either "so" or "yeah I do have a boy haircut and I love it!"  The first day to school was interesting but after she said her "comebacks," although I consider it more of a confirmation of the obvious, that no one said anything because there was no argument or getting upset. She was secure in her choice and I was secure in letting her do it. My job after all is to love her no matter what and that is just how this girl rolls and I love her for it. I did have some experience in this as her older sister did the very same thing and we had given her the very same advice and it worked just as well. 

Repercussions

Since then she has said she is allergic to pink, I have explained to her it is perfectly OK not to like a color but she really isn't allergic to it because it doesn't actually hurt her. So she conceded that she does not like pink. She also does not like dresses. I have to admit I don't like many myself so we are in the same boat here. I know there are some crazies out there who still think girls should wear dresses and boys should wear pants but not everyone wants to rock a dress Jesus style, that is cold and impractical, and while I am sure all those dudes that Jesus lived with wore only practical man-dresses, I say do what makes you happy.

Yes, I Have A Son

Which brings me to my son, he is a crazy kid. Also loves Doctor Who, inventing things, building things wears traditional "boy" clothes. His favorite thing to wear is camo, maybe harder for zombies to see during the apocalypse. I don't know but he carries around "The Zombie Survival Guide" and calls it his bible so he would know more than me. I had a dream about him the other night where he decided to wear high heals with his camo to school, he proceeded to play football in them and the whole time I kept saying "you are going to break an ankle and not be able to skate!" (The Roller Derby here is our one and only sport love) I woke up thinking omg where am I going to get non-slip high heels for my son to play sports in? And this is why that was my quandry. 

You can see this in action here Get to the chopper

He is my kiddo who traded a pink backpack with his "allergic" sister and carried it to school most of the year because she thought the drawings on his orange jansport were the most amazing things ever. Sure he was teased his responses were usually "pink is the manliest color I've ever seen" or "you're just jealous your sister doesn't want to trade for anything of yours." He is totally the kid that would wear high heels to school just because.

What To Make of This Nonsense

Being a parent is super hard, no one can tell you how to do it because basically all we try to do is not screw up the way our parents did. Believe it or not that was their reasoning behind their parenting too. So I have decided I don't care what my kids wear so long as they don't walk down the street in their chonies, they can wear whatever makes them feel like them or whatever feels normal to them.